Does overwhelm contribute to anxiety?

Does overwhelm contribute to anxiety?

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed, Anxious, or Both?

Have you ever felt like the weight of the world is pressing down on you, leaving you feeling overwhelmed? And before you know it, that overwhelm spirals into anxiety? It’s a cycle that so many of us face, often without realising how one feeds into the other.

Let’s start with some quick definitions:
– Overwhelm: “to feel sudden strong emotion.”
– Anxiety: “an uncomfortable feeling of nervousness or worry about something that is happening or might happen in the future.”

When I reflect on these definitions, it’s clear to me that overwhelm often precedes anxiety. Think about it: does that resonate with you?

For me, this connection became painfully obvious during one of the hardest chapters of my life. The past three years turned my world upside down. At times, I felt like I’d been thrown face-first into the dirt, with no way to pull myself out. Overwhelm consumed me, and anxiety quickly followed, wrapping me in its relentless grip.

My Personal Playlist of Overwhelm and Anxiety

I’ll be honest: my mind was like a broken record on repeat. I woke up each day with the same thoughts weighing me down:
– “There’s too much to do.”
– “I’m a burden to my friends.”
– “What’s my purpose? Why am I even here?”

These thoughts didn’t just occupy my mind; they controlled me. My gardens, which once brought me so much joy, became sources of dread. I couldn’t even look at them without thinking, “This is too much. How will I ever keep up with it all?” And that’s when anxiety would creep in, whispering fears about the future: “What if I can’t maintain this? What if it all falls apart?”

Does this sound familiar? Do you recognise your own automatic playlist of thoughts? If so, you’re likely experiencing overwhelm, even if you haven’t named it yet.

How I Broke Free

Here’s the good news: overwhelm doesn’t have to control you, and you can stop it before it spirals into anxiety. What worked for me was a simple, yet life-changing system involving… Post-It Notes

Yes, Post-Its. Let me explain:

1. Listen to Your Playlist 
Write down every overwhelming thought in your head—one thought per Post-It. For example, *”Front garden needs work,” or “Organise the pantry.” Use coloured Post-Its and a black marker (trust me, this is key for clarity becuase you can read it from a distance, don’t use a pen becoz you can’t see it).

2. Take a Break
Once your thoughts are out of your head and onto paper, step away. Have a tea, coffee, or smoothie, and just breathe. This pause is crucial; it creates mental space to shift from overwhelm to action.

3. Identify One Action Per Thought
Go back to your Post-Its and write a simple action under each one. For example:
– Front Garden: “Remove dead growth.”
– Back Garden: “Fix the hose.”

4. Start Small or Let It Sit
Tackle one easy action or simply let the list sit until you’re ready. Even just seeing the tasks broken down can help lift the mental fog.

5. Celebrate Progress
As you complete tasks, remove the Post-Its and relish the sense of accomplishment. This simple act rewires your brain to focus on achievement instead of overwhelm.

How Solaz Scents Helped Me

Through this process, I discovered that scents could play a powerful role in shifting my energy. I used *Anxiety Gone* in the mornings to calm my racing thoughts and clear my head for the day ahead. Later, I’d switch to *New Beginnings*, which helped me feel motivated and inspired.

These scents became my anchors, helping me stay present and aligned as I worked through my Post-It system. When I couldn’t use candles or melts, I’d apply the oils to my wrists and breathe them in, grounding myself with every inhale.

The Outcome? Transformation

Today, I look at my gardens with pride and joy. My spaces feel alive, and I’ve regained my passion for nurturing them. Beyond that, I’ve applied this system to my business and personal life, creating routines and clarity I never thought possible. Overwhelm no longer runs my life, and anxiety rarely shows up anymore.

Your Turn

If overwhelm and anxiety are weighing you down, I encourage you to give this system a try. Start with the Post-Its, take a breath, and consider adding the *Anxiety Gone Pack* to support your journey.

Trust me, there’s a way out of the cycle, and you can do it.

With love,
AJe – Intuitive & Creator @ Solaz Scents

Does Grief ever go away?

Does Grief ever go away?

Is Grief About Moving On or Living With It?

2021 was the hardest year of my life. It didn’t just knock me down—it shattered me. And yet, here I am, trying to piece it all together.

It began on June 20th, when my son, Jeru, passed away from cancer. The doctors said he had two weeks, but he only made it nine days. Those nine days were a mix of grief and gratitude. We spent our time together in the car and walking in the park while dropping my mum off for her daily radiation treatments.

Yes, my mum was also dying—cancer was taking her from me too. Two of my biggest rocks, the souls who held me up, were slipping away at the same time. I can’t even explain what that felt like.

On June 30th, I lost my job after standing up against workplace bullying. It felt like betrayal. I’d fought so hard, but the system failed me.

September brought more loss. My dog Skyla went into labor, and I was excited for a bit of joy. But it wasn’t to be. The first two puppies were stillborn. The third had complications, and an emergency trip to the vet revealed the worst—none of the pups survived, and Skyla almost didn’t make it either.

Two days later, my other dog, Sharman, Jeru’s son, was diagnosed with cancer.

By October, it felt like I was drowning. Family members I thought would help only added to my pain, leaving me feeling more alone than ever. And then came November, when I had to put my mum into palliative care. Watching her deteriorate, seeing her in pain—it broke me in ways I didn’t know were possible.

She passed away on November 14th. That morning, I woke up to a warm sensation, like a loving hug wrapping around me. I knew it was her, saying goodbye.

Grief Is Not About Moving On

People talk about “moving on,” but what does that even mean? How can you “move on” from losing the people or animals who were your everything? Moving on implies forgetting, replacing, leaving behind. That’s not how love works.

For me, grief isn’t about leaving them behind; it’s about carrying them with me.

My mum is still here in so many ways. When I look out the new windows she paid for, she’s there. When I see dragonflies flying around me, drawing infinity symbols in the air, I know it’s her. I hear her voice in the songs I sing and feel her love in the flowers she planted.

Jeru is still with me too. His son Sharman reminds me of him every day. I have Jeru’s favorite toy, his playlist, and even his name tag on my keyring. His spirit lingers in the little moments, in the memories we made, and in the puppies Sharman just fathered—I see Jeru in them too.

Moving Forward, Not Moving On

Grief is not about erasing what’s happened; it’s about learning to live with it. It’s about holding onto the love, the lessons, and the memories while finding a way to step forward.

There are days when the pain hits like a wave—unexpected, overwhelming, and raw. But I’ve learned to honor those moments. As my grief counselor, Priss, says, “Feel it. They deserve that. It’s a way of honoring them.”

How I Navigate Grief

Here’s what’s helped me find a sense of peace, even in the chaos of loss:

1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
When grief hits, don’t push it away. Find a safe space and let yourself feel. Cry, scream, or just sit with your emotions. It’s okay to not be okay.

2. Carry Them With You
Keep something meaningful—like a piece of jewelry, a photo, or a playlist. I wear my mum’s earrings and keep Jeru’s favorite songs close.

3. Reach Out
Talk to someone who gets it. A friend, a counselor, or even the memory of your loved one.

4. Create Rituals
Light a candle, play their favorite music, or write them a letter. These little rituals can bring comfort and connection.

5. Remember the Good Times
Focus on the moments that made you smile. I have photos that remind me of the love and joy we shared.

6. Use Tools That Support You
My grief support pack— especially blended scents like *Grief Support, Feel Better, Safe Space & Anxiety Gone*—helped me feel grounded and soothed during the toughest days.

What Grief Taught Me

Grief isn’t something you “fix” or “move on” from. It’s a part of you now. It’s the price of love, and it’s okay to carry it with you.

Yes, it’s messy and unpredictable. Yes, it can make you feel like you’re living in two worlds—one filled with loss and another filled with new beginnings.

But here’s what I know: You can feel sad for what you’ve lost and still find joy in what’s ahead. It’s not one or the other.

If you’re grieving, know that you’re not alone. Lean on the people, tools, and practices that help you. And most importantly, be kind to yourself.

Sending you love, light, and support,
AJe

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Are you living your best life?

Are you living your best life?

What does your best life look like?

How do you know if you are living it right now?
Wow! Here’s two powerful questions that can really change your life if you take the time to reflect on them. Not only do they deserve some reflection but most importantly, ask yourself this? Are you living your best life or are you constantly aspiring for more and perhaps missing some of the little things that are right in front of you?

How would you know? When’s the last time you reflected on this? For the last few weeks, I’ve been hearing this question “are you living your best life?” so I wrote it up on the blog wall and have been waiting for the information to come through. Well, this week some conversations happened and I’ve just been woken up super early with information to share with you.

Last week, I remember a friend saying to me that her and her husband sat down and did a reflection and when they looked back on their goals from 9 years ago, it turns out they are now living the life they want… They’re married, have 2 beautiful daughters and have even managed to purchase their own home which on paper seemed almost impossible to do. They live in a street where other people are growing their own gardens and home schooling their kids as well, so there is this awesome little community of like-minded people in their very own street.

Another friend of mine was doing some work that she didn’t really enjoy or really want to do then last week, due to a mandatory requirement, turns out she no longer can do that job. At first, she was a little annoyed about it as she needed the income but at the same time, deep down she did feel relieved.  Turns out a new job has already manifested and she will be earning more money with less running around and doing more of what she really wants to do.

Another friend of mine has retired, moved down to the coast and set up the life she has been talking about for a couple of years. She mediates each morning, goes for a walk along the water and enjoys the sounds of the birds and nature.  She’s free to do what she wants, whenever she wants.

So here I am, observing my friends starting to live their best life and it made me start to self-reflect as well and turns out I am very close to living my best life.  I get to make amazing scents, spend time with my dogs, do my gardening and am taking the time to rebuild myself after a very traumatic 2021. I’ve been using the Gratitude scent which has just been really lovely and gentle to help me in the process and have become very grateful for the most simplest of things that I used to take for granted.

Are you living your best life? Do you Self-Reflect?

What Is Self-Reflection?
Simply put, self-reflection is taking the time to think about, meditate on, evaluate, and to think about your behaviours, thoughts, attitudes, motivations, and desires. It’s the process of listening to your thoughts, feeling your emotions and understanding your motivations to determine the “Why?” behind them. I like to call it the “drive” that makes you want something.

Why is Self-Reflection important?
Without self-reflection, we tend to go through life without thinking, moving from one thing to the next without making time to evaluate whether things are actually going well. We don’t pause to think, to analyse or determine what is going well and what isn’t working.  Without this, we tend to get stuck in rut and keep creating the same outcomes. You might feel like you’re on a merry go round!

For example, if you’re not doing self-reflection, you might stay in a job you don’t like or a relationship that isn’t going well. You might just keep on running and trying to keep up with things even if things aren’t going well. You can feel like you’re simply trying to keep your head above water, doing the same things over and over again even if they haven’t worked before.

The Benefits of Self-Reflection
It creates learning and understanding.  When you go through life without making time to think and reflect, you can miss learning opportunities and miss out on gaining deeper understandings from situations that happen. You just keep busying and move from one thing to the next.

Self-reflection allows you to take a step back and gain perspective on what matters and what really doesn’t. It allows you to process events, situations and achieve clarity on them.  It allows you to think deeply and ponder the meaning of your circumstances, emotions, and motivations. It helps you move towards living a wholistic, and integrated best life.

Self-reflection allows you to take a step back and gain perspective on what matters and what can be ignored. It allows you to process events and achieve clarity on them. It allows you  to think deeply and ponder the meaning of your circumstances, emotions, and motivations. It enables you to stay on path towards what it is you really want.

3 easy steps to Self-Reflect… Welcome to my 3 G’S…

Goals, Going & Gratitude

Goals:  Every year I create a visual manifestation chart which I have on my bathroom wall because it’s the first thing I see in the morning and last thing at night.  This helps set my mind in the direction I want and if I wake up in the morning and feel a bit out of sorts, looking at my chart reminds me to reset my focus towards my goals. So if you haven’t done that, make one. People always ask why I’m such a good creator and its because of that one discipline I do every year without fail. It has up to 10 things that I want and some are physical, mental, emotional, money and health orientated. How do create what you want, if you don’t know what you want?

Going:  This simple question is so beneficial. Ask yourself how your goals are going?  Look at your goal chart every morning and look at each item on it and ask yourself, how’s that goal going, am I on track, am I doing positive activity towards it?

Do you have any negative thoughts that you need to release – if you do, then take some positive action that day towards that goal. You can use the Letting Go Scent  which helps you release any negative thoughts.

Gratitude:  is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. I know some people do a really big process around gratitude but a few years ago, we started a gratitude group and all we did was use the Gratitude Scent in a candle, Scent oil, Diffuser or Melt and started to write down what we were thankful each day. We had these groovy little journals we kept by the bed and wrote 3 – 5 things we were grateful that day.  The interesting thing was that the group started to receive their goals faster and their life started to flow with ease and grace.  It didn’t matter when people wrote a whole paragraph or a simple message that said” Today I am grateful for ……..”, it worked and the Gratitude Scent is still a best seller today.

To help you practice gratitude…

The Gratitude Scent helps you to consciously practice gratitude and it’s one of our subtle scents and has some cedarwood, sandalwood and cinnamon in it which helps you to feel calm and be grounded too.

Anyway, I just wanted to share some tips and scents that really helped me in the hope they can help you too. Remember that you deserve to get what you want and Gratitude is a powerful secret that is here to help you. Sending you love light and good vibes, AJe

Gratitude Scent

The thankful reminder

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Anxiety Up… Depression Down

Anxiety Up… Depression Down

Wow!  There I was slowly losing it, bit by bit. I could feel my frustration turning in anger, I couldn’t speak properly, my temperature increased and driving was really difficult so I pulled over and parked my care. I turned off the music and when I arrived at the Doctors, I didn’t even remember getting there.  I walked into the Doctors surgery, answered all the covid questions and everything bloody thing else they needed, only to find that my Dr was 15 mins late.  

They asked me to wait in the car, I said NO it was 39 degrees so I didn’t. About 15 mins later they told me I had to wait outside and that my doctor was going to be another 30 mins.  I felt the anger inside of me about to explode like a volcano and I remember looking around at the other people who were waiting and wondering why I wasn’t allowed to wait in the air-conditioning like them.  I burst into tears and at the same time felt like I would hit something, so I stormed outside and luckily a dear friend rang me and I vented.  I vented so hard I think she could have put the phone outside in the middle of a 6-lane highway and still heard me. 

She said “you know what”, I think you’re having an anxiety attack.  When she told me what was happening, everything made sense. It was in that moment; I was able to start to take control and breather. I remember that “Anxiety goes Up and Depression goes Down”.

My heart was racing, my mind wasn’t computing and I was super sensitive to any sound and noise.  Yep, I was a mess and I had no idea what was going on.  Mum died of Breast Cancer only 2 months ago and she was my best friend, used to live with me and help me with the business too.  Did it just hit me that’s she’s gone, I mean really gone? Or was it that last year was full of death and trauma for me. Was it a combination of everything or was it just the straw that broke the camel’s back?

By the time I got into actually see the Doctor, I burst into tears and she confirmed I was smack back in the middle of anxiety attack.  Thankfully my friend called just before I got to the Doctor’s otherwise, I probably couldn’t have even gone inside to see her.

I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced anxiety but my psychologist says Anxiety goes up and Depression goes down.  With Anxiety your heart rate increases, you get very sensitive, you can’t tolerate the smallest of things, you tend to overreact, your breathing gets faster and you don’t seem to have control over your emotions or feeling. I can now describe it as a Volcano of emotions which consist of fear, frustration, stress, disappointment and overwhelm all at once.  It can be really quick or in my case, looking back now, I think it started to build over a week because there were a lot of little triggers that were sneakily laying upon one another

Anxiety is what I call the secret thing, upon sharing my experience with close friends, I learnt that 3 of them have all had anxiety attacks and never told me.  I’m not sure why, but I do understand that there is a sense of shame and disappointment that goes with it and it’s not an easy thing to describe or talk about unless you know that the person, you’re sharing with has also experienced it.  Afterwards I was physically wiped out for about 3-4 days and because I was feeling absolutely exhausted, I then started heading towards depression.

Thankfully I rang my Grief & Loss Counsellor and didn’t allow myself to go down to depression but it’s only a days since its happened that I’ve finally been about to string enough words together to start writing this blog.

The main reason I’m sharing this with you is because I want you to know that: If you have anxiety attacks, you are not alone and here’s a list of things that helped me to stop it and then get come out the other side. I am back to good now so don’t worry about me, but I think this is a great opportunity to share some Tips that may help you.

Tips that may help you…

  1. Call someone and ask for help – they may recognise what’s going on and help you to calm down.
  2. Share your story with your friends and you might find out they have experienced anxiety too
  3. Set up a code sentence like “I need you” with your friends so if you call and they don’t answer, you can text and they know to call you
  4. Look at 5 things you can see and speak them out loud then,
  5. Touch 4 things and say them out loud then,
  6. Listen to 3 things I you can hear and say them out loud then,
  7. Smell 2 things and say them out loud
  8. Focus on your breathing and take some deep breathes
  9. Take some medication to calm you down (if you have some) (some people might be really hesitant about his, I certainly am, but just last time I took 1 tablet and it helped calm my nervous system) which really helped.
  10. Allow yourself time to really get settled again, it can take a few days and don’t get too down or start to allow yourself to head towards depression.
  11. Once you are starting to come good again, do some reflection and see if you can identify what the triggers were.
  12. Implement some small actions that will help with those triggers in future.
  13. Create 1 or 2 goals and steps towards these changes
  14. Commit to the changes and take action
  15. Trust the process of the tornado (see previous blog) and don’t become fearful
  16. Step outside yourself and watch the direction the tornado is guiding you to
  17. Use your scents to help shift the emotions.

After my anxiety attack ended

I used the steps above and figured out what the trigger was and have made some decisions around not returning back to the job that caused that.  I focused on re-balancing and really got stuck into the scents to help shift my emotions – I’ll write a list below of what really helped me.

I am now spending time gardening, swimming the dogs, listening to music and I’ve started writing again.  I have Let Go of a few security blankets, some grief, trauma and hurt and feel at peace.  I am now very clear how I want my life to look like and have been focusing on that.

Scents to help shift your emotions

I found that the Letting Go just helped me to Let Go of baggage and negative energy, whilst the Mind Cleese helped me to release old thoughts and beliefs. I feel very grateful I had these scents available on my shelf because I was able to access them as soon as I got home.  I used them for about 4 days solid and alternative between them.

After this I then found myself turning to the Safe Space Scent, it’s a strong vanilla bean and it always makes me feel like I’m getting a great big hug. I burnt that for a solid week afterwards and had to make myself some more. I put the mosaic candle by the side of bed so that when I woke up in the morning, it was the first thing I would smell.

Anyway, I just wanted to share some tips and scents that really helped me in the hope they can help you too. Remember that anxiety isn’t something to feel shameful about and talking about it really helps.

Sending you love light and good vibes, AJe

The change tornado

The change tornado

The Change Tornado

Ever found yourself enjoying life, feeling like everything is going just right, only to wake up one day in the middle of chaos? Like a whirlwind has swept through and turned everything upside down?

I call it the *tornado of change*.

It’s when life feels completely out of control. The winds of change come fast and furious, tossing everything around, and no matter how hard you try, you can’t steer or find your footing. All you can do is hang on and ride out the storm.

If you know exactly what I’m talking about, keep reading. If not, save this for a time when the weather changes—it likely will.

My Tornado Story

Not long ago, I found myself in the eye of a Category 5 tornado. My relationship with a family member and his family broke down completely. My mum passed away from cancer. My dog Jeru also died from cancer, and Skyla, my other dog, lost all her puppies. On top of that, Sharman, another of my fur babies, had cancer and needed surgery.

Professionally, things weren’t any better. I left a high-paying job because I stood up to bullying and harassment and needed legal support to get through it. My health was crumbling under the pressure, and just getting through each day felt like a monumental task. To make things worse, I tried starting a new job in the midst of all this chaos, but it turned out to be a complete disappointment.

And then, of course, there was COVID—the backdrop to everything.

It was, without a doubt, one of the hardest years of my life. If you’ve ever been caught in a tornado of change, you’ll know how difficult it is to stay balanced and grounded.

Riding Out the Storm

As I was weathering my storm, I tried everything I could to stay stable. It wasn’t easy, but I learned some strategies that helped me, and I want to share them with you in case you ever find yourself in the middle of a change tornado.

1. Recognise the Tornado
The first step is to acknowledge that you’re in the middle of a storm. Don’t resist or fight it; allow it to exist. Use grounding techniques or tools (like the Authentic scent) to help you feel stable.

2. Stay Calm
The power of your mind is incredible. Staying calm is crucial, even when everything around you is spinning. Scents like *Calm & Relax* or *Balance* can support you in maintaining a sense of peace.

3. Reflect on the Changes
Take a good, honest look at your life. What’s changing? What needs to change? During my tornado, I found the *Clarity* scent invaluable for this step.

4. Set Goals
Once you’ve identified what needs to change, set clear goals and take small steps toward them. My *Creation* scent helped me stay focused on this process.

5. Commit and Trust
Commit to your path and trust the process. Even when it feels scary or uncertain, know that the storm is guiding you somewhere. I used *Forward Faith* to keep fear at bay.

6. Let Go of What No Longer Serves You
Sometimes, the tornado comes to clear away what isn’t aligned with your higher self. Letting go is tough, but necessary. My *Letting Go* scent supported me in releasing what I needed to.

7. Ask for Ease and Grace
Speak to your higher self, asking for the process to unfold with ease and grace. Then, be patient and trust.

When the Tornado Ends

When the winds die down, you’ll wake up feeling different—calmer, more at peace, and somehow renewed. The world will look and feel different because the storm has shifted you to where you’re meant to be.

For me, 2021’s tornado ended, and it left me with a clean slate. It was time to start fresh and discover who I was without all the things I’d lost.

I found balance by spending time in my garden, swimming with my dogs, listening to music, and writing again. I’ve used every scent in my 5D collection, and now I’m leaning into the Uplifting Collection and *Yes* to embrace this new chapter.

I feel calm, clear, and no longer care about what others think. I know what I want my life to look like, and I’m creating it on my terms.

The Lesson of the Tornado

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: life is always perfect, even when it feels chaotic. You don’t need to control the storm. You don’t need to force or steer anything.

The calm exists within the eye of the tornado. Trust the winds, even when they scare the hell out of you. Let the storm do its thing, knowing it’s guiding you exactly where you need to go.

Life is amazing when you let go and flow with the universal process.

So if you find yourself in a tornado of change, hang on, trust the process, and let the winds carry you to your next destination.

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